According to CBN, if you are between the ages of 35 and 55 years old, you are part of the sandwich generation. This generation has to deal with children and aging parents.
Most of them are women who wear many hats in a day. Are you one of 20 million women in America who are facing these challenges? The number is growing according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.
How can you get your siblings, husband and children to work with you in your journey of caring for your aging parents?
Here are 5 tips to ease the caring for your aging parents’ journey:
Open communication: Share your concerns, needs and struggles with them and let them know your aging parents needs, wants, medical conditions and concerns. When you have open communication, they will be readily able to see what you are going through.
Most families do have issues (who doesn’t?) and most do not want to talk about family things fearing it will rock the boat. But what is more important? Is it your sanity or your ego?
Practice forgiveness: We are humans that are likely to make mistakes and hurt each other. Be the first to overlook and forgive. When we forgive one another we allow freedom and understanding to flow. Grudges and unforgiveness rot the bones.
Talk about each person’s responsibilities: Children can be given responsibilities even at a young age. They can be given chores and be accountable for their school work and chores at all times. What you expect is what you are going to get. If you expect and encourage great results, they will follow through.
We as parents are their role models. Do we follow through with our promises and what we are supposed to do? We are also teaching them honor when we honor our elderly parents with our words and deeds. They are watching us.
Organize a meeting with your siblings: Talk about each other’s responsibilities. Get a point person to coordinate the different chores and concerns. If siblings are not available to help they can be responsible in helping out financially with getting outside help.
Recognize your need to get help from others, volunteer or paid, to avoid burn out, stress and a malfunctioned home. There are many ways you can receive help and they all come in different price ranges.
Include your husband in all your meetings, plans and educating your kids…go for the partnership. It may not be easy for some of you to have the support of partnership from your husband.
A stressful mom makes a stressful home and your relationship with your husband, children, siblings and elderly parents will be affected as well.
If you are the one who lives closest to your elderly parents, you have to let your siblings know of your limits so they can give a helping hand in financial or moral support.
But if none of you are living close to your elderly parents, it is crucial that you look for professional help as well. Maybe a daily call to check in and see if they are taking their medications is the first step. Keeping in Touch Solutions can provide that first step of the journey.
Teaching children about honor and life management: Your children need to learn about honoring their parents with time, money and care. When you take care of your elderly parents’ needs, your children are being taught as well.
One day, they are going to walk in your shoes. Will they know how to walk in those shoes? Are you preparing them when they are young?
How can we help? Please leave us a comment and go to Keeping in Touch Solutions to find out our services. You can also call one of us at 317.480.1038.
We can do the best we can. We need to let go and stop beating on ourselves!
A daily check-in call could be the lifeline, the joy you give someone that makes the biggest difference in their perception of what old age is like.
Contact me at 317-480-1038 today. Let’s make a difference together.
I’m Diana Beam, Founder of Keeping in Touch Solutions. It is my heartfelt desire for every person to live a happy and healthy life in the place they call home, no matter what their age. You can’t put a price on peace of mind for your parents and yourself. It’s priceless . . . and significant.
For that reason, the goal of every Keeping In Touch Solutions program is to provide a caring connection and service that both the elderly and their caregivers can rely on to make living that good life easier.
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