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They’re Getting Old, How Can I Get Them to Listen to Me?

I recently read a statistic that took me by surprise:

While only 25% of the aging parents surveyed report that they are stressed because of their adult children, nearly twice as many adult children report being stressed because of their aging parents.

Our kids are worried about us – and doesn’t that explain a lot?

I don’t know about you, but I hear from my children often. Of course, I have three, so it might seem like a lot because they are each calling off and on during the week. But, in my mind, they don’t have any reason to really be worried.

  • I am active – in fact, really busy with the business and community groups. I have friends and lots of social interaction.
  • I am healthy – watch my weight – and did I mention how active I am?
  • I feel secure – I have a home, food and everything else I need. (More clutter than I would like, but, hey, not only do the years accumulate, so does the S-T-U-F-F!!)
  • I am happy – I have challenges, of course, but more due to all the things I want to accomplish rather than worry, stress or anxiety. And, I love seeing the kids and grandchildren, too.

But still, the check-ins continue. Friends my age are starting to get subtle (and not so subtle) hints about “what they should do” from their adult children. There are “suggestions” about where they should live, what they should do, and whether or not they should be driving. And boy do they bristle up about it.

There are two things I realize about this situation that is growing in volume and frequency with today’s aging population:

  1. There needs to be some good, ol’ honest conversation between the two generations. As seniors, we need to assert that we will be open and honest about when we need help. And then we have to do just that. It’s not bad to need help, after all, we taught these kids how to use a spoon, helped them wade through the turmoil of adolescence, and were there with answers to questions about new babies and jobs. We should be thankful they are willing to help us during the changes we face as we age.
  2. Love My New Freedom can alleviate the worry and stress on both sides of the situation. Seniors call in daily to leave a message that all is well. It takes two seconds and if a call is not received, someone starts to check on the senior right away. Adult children know that Mom or Dad is okay unless they are notified. Mom doesn’t feel “watched” and the kids are relieved. At less than the cost of a senior-discounted cup of coffee per day, everyone is happy.

Aging is inevitable. Worry and stress about that aging doesn’t have to be. It’s a challenge to transition from the role of parent and authority to that of someone who receives care and attention. But it equally as challenging for our children, too.

Back to that first realization I had. Conversation – open and honest conversation – is the beginning. Love My New Freedom is the tool to make the transition a little easier for everyone.
A daily check-in call could be the lifeline, the joy you give someone that makes the biggest difference in their perception of what old age is like.

Contact me at 317-480-1038 today. Let’s make a difference together.

diana beam

I’m Diana Beam, Founder of Keeping in Touch Solutions. It is my heartfelt desire for every person to live a happy and healthy life in the place they call home, no matter what their age. You can’t put a price on peace of mind for your parents and yourself. It’s priceless . . . and significant.

For that reason, the goal of every Keeping In Touch Solutions program is to provide a caring connection and service that both the elderly and their caregivers can rely on to make living that good life easier.

 

 

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