Independence, especially for women – and SENIOR WOMEN, gets a lot of attention. Occasionally you see families rolling their eyes and talking about the senior women in their families demanding their independence. Why is that?
Independence for senior women is more than senior lifestyle. This quote from Happy to 102 explains it very clearly:
“Independence…does not necessarily mean seniors will be just as active and agile as they were in their younger years. It simply means they will live life as freely and self-governing as possible, given their personal circumstances. Independent living does not necessarily mean doing everything yourself. Instead, it means being in control of how and when things are done.”
Aging in place is not just taking care of home maintenance, handling prescription medications, personal hygiene and meals, laundry and errands. It is about making decisions and sometimes families don’t see the fine line between managing and doing.
Families worry and want to take control and “fix it.” Whatever “it” is. They forget that taking away the decision about “it” chips away at the feelings of control a senior needs. Just because an elderly aunt can’t get up on the ladder and change the light bulbs doesn’t mean she wants someone else to take responsibility for getting it done. She can make the decision to get it done, buy the bulbs and arrange the time. That gives her control.
Senior health is always a hotbed of a struggle for control. For instance, senior malnutrition is a problem. It could be that grandma doesn’t like eating meals by herself or grandpa doesn’t know how to cook. That doesn’t mean that they want someone telling them when to eat, what to eat and where to eat. Would you?
Caring for aging parents is as difficult, no, it is more difficult than caring for your children. Because parents want control over decisions and it can become a tug-of-war over that control. Remember, they have been making decisions for the majority of their life and having you – their child, who they made decisions for – take away those decisions, is probably not a welcome situation. Would you like it?
Happiness and seniors can go hand-in-hand. Respectful conversations are the beginning.
It’s not uncommon for the daughter or son of one of our elderly clients to tell us that having that third party, objective eye in the mix is so helpful. We call every day with a friendly voice and check in that everything is going well. Many of the seniors we talk with share what’s going on in their lives and some actually pursue more activities and interests so they have more to share with the Care Caller.
One single telephone call every day from someone considered a friend can make a huge difference in the life of a lonely senior. Life becomes less lonely and a little brighter.
Independence isn’t so much about “staying young and fit.” It’s about maintaining control over life and being treated with respect. We like that Keeping In Touch Solutions can be a part of making that happen.
A daily check-in call could be the lifeline, the joy you give someone that makes the biggest difference in their perception of what old age is like.
Contact me at 317-480-1038 today. Let’s make a difference together.
I’m Diana Beam, Founder of Keeping in Touch Solutions. It is my heartfelt desire for every person to live a happy and healthy life in the place they call home, no matter what their age. You can’t put a price on peace of mind for your parents and yourself. It’s priceless . . . and significant.
For that reason, the goal of every Keeping In Touch Solutions program is to provide a caring connection and service that both the elderly and their caregivers can rely on to make living that good life easier.
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